feel secure in your love

English translation: feel secure

17:13 Nov 12, 2019

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English term or phrase: feel secure in your love

Dear colleagues,
I’m not sure about the meaning of “feel secure in your love” in the passage below, taken from an American parenting book.
In particular, I find it difficult to interpret the preposition "in" in this context.

Does “feel secure in” mean that the little child feels a sense of security because her mom is with her, and loves her, or does it mean that the little child is certain or confident that her mom loves her?
Thank you so much for your help!

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Let’s look at another example. A three-year-old consistently hits her baby brother, but again, not in the middle of a tantrum, but seemingly just because. (…)
If you were the parent in this situation, (…) you’d be helping her understand that when she has big emotions, or she feels the need to test limits and doesn’t handle herself well, ** she can still feel secure in your love **. You’d soothe whatever it was that was raging within her, whatever was driving her to hit her brother, all while keeping both children safe. And she’d learn that you’ll consistently show up to see her needs and respond to them in a timely, sensitive, predictable manner. As a result she would develop the security that serves her for a lifetime.

haribert KudoZ activity Questions: 287 (none open) (1 closed without grading) Answers: 524
Local time: 07:40

Selected answer:feel secure

Explanation:
The child feels certain that her mother still loves her, even if she misbehaves. Most likely the child is misbehaving to get the mother's attention and reassurance. A child with a younger sibling often feels that the sibling gets more attention than she does.

Selected response from:

Tina Vonhof (X)
Canada
Local time: 23:40

Grading comment

Thank you so much, Tina, for your help! Many sincere thanks also to all other contributors!
4 KudoZ points were awarded for this answer

SUMMARY OF ALL EXPLANATIONS PROVIDED

4 +5

feel secure

Tina Vonhof (X)

(your love can make her) feel secure

Elias Marios Kounas

The Child feels well, secure that her mother love her unconditionally

Roberta Broccoletti

Discussion entries: 6

Answers

17 mins confidence:

peer agreement (net): +5

feel secure

Tina Vonhof (X)
Canada
Local time: 23:40
Native speaker of:

Dutch,

English
PRO pts in category: 4

Grading comment

Thank you so much, Tina, for your help! Many sincere thanks also to all other contributors!

Notes to answerer

Asker: Thank you so much, Tina, for your help!

21 mins confidence:

The Child feels well, secure that her mother love her unconditionally

Explanation:
My opinion

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Note added at 22 min (2019-11-12 17:36:29 GMT)
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I m sorry loves her...

Roberta Broccoletti
Italy
Local time: 07:40
Specializes in field
Native speaker of: Italian

Notes to answerer

Asker: Thank you very much, Roberta, for your contribution! You and Tina seem to have the same opinion!

31 mins confidence:

(your love can make her) feel secure

Explanation:
I think that, in this case, it is not so much about the little girl feeling confident that her mother loves her - although this is a prerequisite - but about what this love practically means: that there's nothing to fear, because her mother will take care of everything. This is how the sentences following the phrase make me interpret it.

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Note added at 55 mins (2019-11-12 18:08:47 GMT)
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secure -> feeling confident and free from fear or anxiety.
"everyone needs to have a home and to feel secure and wanted"

Similar:
protected from harm/danger
free from danger
sheltered
shielded
guarded
unharmed
undamaged
safe and sound
safe
out of harm's way
in a safe place
in safe hands
invulnerable
immune
impregnable
unassailable
at ease
unworried
reassured
relaxed
happy
comfortable
confident

Opposite:
vulnerable
threatened
unsettled

https://www.google.com/search?sxsrf=ACYBGNQHNRtszTjNaW_DieRY...

Elias Marios Kounas
Greece
Local time: 08:40
Native speaker of: Greek
PRO pts in category: 4

Notes to answerer

Asker: Thank you so much, Ilias! I see what you mean, and it was just the other sentences that made me uncertain about the meaning... I can see that Tina's and Roberta's answers give a different interpretation...maybe it has a twofold meaning..

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